You all know that I try to be rational and see multiple points of view. I try to share my story rather than quote statistics. I try to engage in discussion. However, I'm tired and frustrated, and I've been listening to "Brave" by Sara Bareilles on loop ("I wonder what would happen if you say what you want to say, and let the words fall out; honestly, I want to see you be brave!"). In other words, I use the "MI hate" label pretty sparingly these days, but it's time.
Nonetheless, this is a message that I just sent to Governor Snyder as well as several Michigan legislators, the Secretary of State (Ruth Johnson), and the Attorney General (Bill Schuette). I encourage you to send your legislators and other leaders this message or a similar one.
Hello Governor Snyder,
I am again responding to a message from you. While I am aware that I could unsubscribe myself, I wish for your office to be inconvenienced in a small way, since your blatant regard for civil rights has greatly inconvenienced me, my family, and the community to which I belong. Therefore, I am requesting that you direct whoever manages your subscription list to remove me from it and issue me an apology for rubbing in my face that you and your family have many privileges afforded to you that I cannot expect.
For instance, a
member of my community's long term same sex partner was recently
hospitalized. Although this community member works for the Henry Ford
Health System, has insurance through them, and has set up care for her
family there, where the administration and staff are LGBT friendly and
do not discriminate or deny basic human rights, nonetheless, her partner
recently had a health emergency and ended up at St. John Providence, a
Catholic hospital. Under Michigan law, Catholic hospitals can and do
discriminate against LGBT families. In this case, the partner was in the
ICU and unable to make her own care decisions, but her spouse was
denied ability to make decisions for her on the basis of their status as
a same sex couple. Instead, the mother of the patient was contacted,
despite not being aware of a great deal of her daughter's medical
history, and refused to let the spouse make decisions. I had been
assured by Michigan Republicans, over and over, that the need to pass
statewide legislation against this type of discrimination is nonexistent
because it doesn't happen. However, it clearly has. This is
unacceptable. Religious institutions serving people not of their
community - as is the case with hospitals - should not be permitted to
enforce their religious rules on non members of that religion; if they
do so, they should be stripped of accreditation and state funding, not
protected by "right to discriminate" laws put forth by members of your
political party. Waffling on providing these basic rights is
unacceptable. Refusing to provide leadership to Michigan's government to
pass protections that should already exist in a progressive,
supportive, business-friendly, family-friendly state is unacceptable.
Allowing the Christian equivalent of sharia law is unacceptable. Putting
families already under a great deal of stress due to medical
emergencies under additional stress by preventing them from making care
decisions is unacceptable. You may argue that this family could have
attempted to take additional steps to protect themselves by going out
of state to marry or hiring a lawyer to fill out paperwork, but the
truth is that you would never tell a straight couple to do this, and as
such are recognizing that straight families have privileges that same
sex ones do not.I am again responding to a message from you. While I am aware that I could unsubscribe myself, I wish for your office to be inconvenienced in a small way, since your blatant regard for civil rights has greatly inconvenienced me, my family, and the community to which I belong. Therefore, I am requesting that you direct whoever manages your subscription list to remove me from it and issue me an apology for rubbing in my face that you and your family have many privileges afforded to you that I cannot expect.
You
could also direct Ruth Johnson to train her employees to stop
discriminating against same sex couples who wish to change their
identification based on a marriage name change from out of state, as
they are doing to my wife and me. I have been assured by her office that
everyone is aware that this discrimination is happening, but I inform
those who ask for state-issued identification confirmation with my
financial transactions (my financial institutions, employer, and the
federal government use my married name) of this discrimination, and they
are unaware. To date, no one has told me that this policy is
reasonable. This is not only discrimination against me, it is a snub
against the legal system in California that issued me a legal marriage
certificate expected to be recognized in other states, just as ALL
straight marriage certificates across the country are, regardless of
whether laws against marrying cousins, required waiting periods, blood
tests, etc are reciprocated. I was even told that your Secretary of
State was willing to issue me an invalid enhanced driver's license that
could cause me to get stuck in another country because it didn't match
my federal information. Your Secretary of State has also issued the
incorrect information that once I changed my name with Social Security, I
could change it back on the basis of Michigan's discriminatory policy.
While I do not wish to do so, given the lifetime limit on the number of
Social Security cards that may be issued to an individual and the
likelihood of having to change it back once your discriminatory policies
are corrected, I verified this possibility. Social Security indicated
that without an additional legal document, such as a divorce certificate
(which, by the way, I cannot obtain given your policies), the Social
Security office doesn't allow this. This policy has caused my partner
and I to waste countless hours looking for alternatives (we cannot file
with the county to legally change our names through the courts because
we've relocated too many times in the last few years, and that costs
extra time and money anyway, reinforcing our status as second class
citizens) and worrying what could happen. Ask your wife how frustrating
it has been for her and her friends to change their names after
marriage. Multiply that by 1,000. That's my situation.
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