Debriefing

It's been a couple days since the ceremony, and Rebecca and I are still glowing with joy. It was an absolutely beautiful day (okay, not weather-wise, but it cleared up when it was important) with so many of our loved ones there. The pictures are wonderful (thanks to our photographer, Jacopo Tarantino), the food was delicious (shout out to the Gone Wired Cafe), and the cake was amazing (credit to Roseanne Sherwood of Nana's Sweet Treats). We also greatly appreciate the support of our minister, Kari Nicewander of Edgewood United Church of Christ in East Lansing.

Our ceremony was a mix of traditional and non-traditional elements. Our vows were as traditional as we could make them, because we found an elegance and strength in that, so they read:

" I, Erin, take you, Rebecca, to be my beloved partner in life, to cherish and honor from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, so long as we both shall live."

On the other hand, rather than a sand ceremony or unity candle, we had a dream jar ceremony. Both of us have a cleaned-out plastic peanut butter jar decorated with the word "Dreams," and we placed inside small slips of paper with hopes, dreams, and wishes for the future. We decided that when we got married, it was no longer appropriate for us to keep those separate, since we were committing to a lifetime together. So we bought a larger glass jar and then had the following liturgy:

" Rebecca, I will cherish your dreams, just as I cherish mine, that together, we might make our dreams into a reality."



One of the staff members at the cafe told us that the dream jars were the most salient element of the ceremony for him, and it certainly was meaningful to us too, especially as our life is in transition and we're learning to make sacrifices for each other.

Tomorrow is Go Time

I can't believe it, but the ceremony is tomorrow! We have the rehearsal dinner tonight - lasagna, salad, and rhubarb pie at Gone Wired. We've also picked up food for lunch tomorrow. We're going to have quite a house full! Most of the guests of honor are coming, as are Rebecca's parents and an out-of-town aunt and uncle.

I have a feeling that I'm forgetting some things, but I'm hoping that it won't matter in the end.

At Long Last

We've been trying to get a price quote from our venue for probably about a week now. We knew they were really chill when we decided to have the ceremony there, so I'm not surprised it took so long. It's been difficult, sometimes, to get hold of our contact at Gone Wired, but once we do, Colleen has always been very nice and accommodating, so I felt confident that things would come together. That also gave us the flexibility to change things at the last minute, something a traditional venue wouldn't allow us.

Colleen gave me a call this morning, and the price actually came in under their original estimate! We'll be able to stick to what we budgeted for food - we were looking at around $1200, which we'll hit with the rehearsal dinner, ceremony, and cake included. Words can't describe how happy I am. We need to get a deposit down by Wednesday.

In other news, I still have some things to pick up before the ceremony, including a changeover bucket from the MSU Dairy Store (super excited about that).

I'm starting to get nervous about everything. I want everything to be beautiful - non-traditional but traditional where it counts, and I want everyone to have a really nice time, eat some delicious food, and spend quality time with us. I'm trying to keep the main thing the main thing - committing to the person I love - and not worry too much about the small things.